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Handling Offenses

This is a necessary topic to address for many of us in this day and age. Times are stressful_ not everyone thinks before they speak or act. And sometimes inappropriate behavior from a Christian/Christians can really be upsetting because they are the ones that you expect kindness, encouragement and acceptance from. Scripture says to be kind and loving to each other, to encourage each other often and to receive each other as Christ receives us. Yet the unrefined manner of some Christians often leaves us unsettled and sometimes perplexed.

Should'nt those of us who have heard the scriptures many times be reflecting some of them in our behavior? In fact, some Christians display what I call 'hit and run' behavior_ they say or do something outright offensive, then fail to apologize.....they can even make it difficult for you to contact them for your peace of mind.....and you can guess_ they will even be found breaking bread in a service that Sunday. Even week after week, without any repentance or accountability. Believe me when I say that even some pastors are guilty of this.

I would rather make Jesus my Covering anytime than a fallible man who is subject to the gravity of sin. My brother and sister in Christ, He is our One true example of a godly nature in every mention recorded of Him in Scripture; He is the One who never offends; He is the One who will always lift you up and show you such acceptance – you feel good every time you're in His presence.

Should we not take after His example and love each other like He loves us.....or at least  remember that person is precious to Him that we perhaps thoughtlessly offended? Yes, we should really take more care how we treat one another because many are hurting AND The Lord is watching. Do we think that He won't take notice OR that we can simply say “I am sorry about that” to Him and go on with our day or week, not having made any attempt to make things right with that person?

No, we're very much mistaken if we take such things for granted. Rest assure that The Lord will call us to account – in fact our prayers will be hindered, this does not only apply to husband and wife for we have a godly bond in Christ. So we must all remember that God's River flows through the Law of Love. I decided to write this article when I became aware that a dear Christian friend has yet again encountered another offense this week.

My best weapon for this in the last year has been to pray for God to bless the offenders. I did not understand the sense of that once.....but practiced as an act of will, it sure keeps you free! As the saying goes “do not allow them to live in you rent free.” That's taking up space that the Blessing of God could be filling. You will be the bigger person for not letting them get the better of you.

I once asked God how He deals with offenses because He has had the most. His instant reply was “He cancelled our misdeeds and considered them no more” - I did not realize He says this in His Word – that's hard for some of us but it is effective. I shared it a few months later with a girl who had a very big problem and she felt gloriously free the next day after applying it overnight.

Another way I deal with such things is to think of something good about the person. We can always magnify God above the situation too. And believe me, I have put these into practice through the years. Don't wait to feel “nice” about them to know you have forgiven (that may not always be so for everyone) but just be willing to let go of the offense_ this makes Jesus happy, it's not always possible to forget. Maybe you would like to share what helps you?

To keep my Blog inviting and pleasant, I ask that you refrain from responses that make for heavy reading and make your comments general or helpful in some way. It's best not to air our laundry in Blogs, but many websites permit it. This is not one of those. I appreciate how some of you feel and I would like to direct you to the Wellspring of Life page of this website and also the Quality Friendships page of my Janet and Jesus website that has Poems on other pages to comfort you. I wish you well.

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Karisa on Saturday, 16 August 2014 9:59 AM
So true, The Lord will call us to account when we offend and don't care to make amends. If not in an obvious way, He will delay answers to our prayers. Early Christians used to take such care of their words, they practiced the fear of The Lord. You can't worship Him and offend your brother or sister. He takes that very seriously. Do we expect to see our prayers answered when we behave so poorly? We should be innocent as doves, not like the world. Show Jesus love for each other, that's the standard.
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Mark and Debbie on Monday, 16 February 2015 4:31 PM
So glad to find that someone shares our sentiments. Some do have 'hit and run' behavior. That is a good term for it and it's obvious they have not let the Spirit of God refine their nature or put scripture into practice. We should be sorry for them because without a clean heart, no-one will see Him.
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Sheree on Monday, 25 May 2015 10:16 AM
Positive godly thinking leads to positive action which leads to a more positive life and more opportunities to praise and glorify our wonderful creator, God our Father! Today I was again reminded on the 'Colour Your Life' webpage of the power one's words have to impact not only their entire life but also that of others. So often we speak without thinking and so often the first words out of our mouths are spoken in anger or frustration designed to hurt and or get back at someone who has wronged us. For me also I know that so often I miss opportunities to praise and glorify God especially when things are going well in my life... It is so easy to be negative and have that reflected in so much of what we say - so thanks for the encouragement that one small step in a heart to heart conversation with God and others can and will change lives for the better! I will certainly be choosing my words more wisely from now on and just love all the inspirational quotes!!
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Beth May on Wednesday, 8 July 2015 4:15 PM
Yes, Christians often are not careful with their words. And what do you do when a Pastor offends? I think what you said in your other post When Preachers Dismay....I have made Jesus my covering now - He is my perfect example.
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Ps Anthony on Saturday, 25 July 2015 8:31 AM
I like to encourage everyone to look to Jesus because He lived the perfect life. He is my covering also. Pastors are accountable as the next person for their actions and they should not forget that. God bless.

Paul and Karen on Friday, 24 July 2015 12:48 PM
Leave their offenses at the Cross. That way you can distance yourself from them. It's sometimes not easy but it does work. You are right Janet, many people confess their offense to God and not to the person they offended. We are instructed in His Word to do both.
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Ps Anthony on Saturday, 25 July 2015 8:05 AM
That's right Paul and Karen, otherwise our prayers can be hindered or the person's we offended if they find it difficult to get over the offense. Jesus said not to put a stumbling block in each other's way. That is a sure way to stop God's blessing. Love this blog, there are so many good biblical principles here.

Janet Vargas on Friday, 25 September 2015 6:09 AM
Hi everyone, it's good to read your comments. I may be making another post regarding poor behavior among Christians because it is a vital issue, yet ought not to be. We are saved to a Living Hope, yet the sometimes devastating behavior of some, leaves much to be desired. Many thanks to Ps Anthony, your input is very good here in my blog. You are welcome to come on board - so to speak - and make more comments. You will find him in Making a Stand - Old Fashioned Values... and.... Should Christians Really Be Tithing? Sheree, you are most welcome to contribute to this website again if time permits these days. I have thoughtful quotes and sayings by her on my Inspirations for You website. Sheree has some really refreshing insights. All the comments here on this post are really excellent. Feel free to expand your efforts. And God Bless everyone!
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